It’s been a while since I last wrote an essay. My absence was due to one thing: writer’s block. Or something adjacent to it. Let me explain. As a lesbian writer, there are only so many things I could write about before everything becomes stale and boring. I wanted to…

I really don’t like the new reality TV show, Queer Love: The Ultimatum. I get it. Trashy reality TV is fun and overwhelming heterosexual. However, this isn’t fun. This feels…well…like a mockery of our community. This statement reeks of respectability politics, right? Like I’m saying “Oh, we shouldn’t show our…

I had wondered for a number of months how to start another essay. I wanted to write a series of essays about straightness and the things I have observed about straight culture: the adversarial view men and women have toward one another, the way that women capitulate to a system…

There was barely muffled shouting coming through the windows of an ivy-covered mansion in Dallas, TX. It was perfectly manicured, with morning glories draped on the trellises, trumpet flowers weaving in and out of the gated fence, and tulips perched in the many window boxes that peppered the outside. Inside…

“No real man will take her seriously,” my cousin remarked about Lori Harvey one night on Instagram. Lori Harvey, socialite, and daughter of talk show host Steve Harvey, is a gorgeous woman who dates openly and can have any man she wants. She was born into wealth and had a…

Sometimes an essay comes from deep exploration, life-changing journeys, and trauma. And sometimes it comes from a series of dumb questions given to you by your tragically straight sister. “Don’t you miss dick?” my older sister said in a hushed tone, washing Thanksgiving dishes at my cousin's place. At that…

The thing about being a writer is that you look at the world as an endless treasure trove of material for stories. But sometimes, something so horrific happens that it stops you in your tracks. I’m on my way home for Thanksgiving. I haven’t been to Texas in 18 months…

Sometimes when you’re a writer, an opportunity drops into your lap. I’ve been writing about my own struggles with respectability and dating. While another essay of mine is in its beginning stages, I want to hop over here to discuss some of my quick thoughts about an adjacent issue. Recently…

It’s been a little over a year since I came out of the closet. It’s been a year of heartbreak and moving. There was change and reevaluation. Most of the time, I felt like I was adrift at sea. In the midst of that, I started this blog with the…